Start Living Your Best Day, Today

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I’ve got big plans for this year.

My one word for 2014 is freedom. I’m spending this year busting my bum and digging deep in my soul to redesign my life to more strongly align with my priorities and what I truly believe.

The desired destination of this journey to freedom is to make my ideal regular day my actual regular day.

(If you’re not sure what I mean by “ideal regular day” or don’t realize how important it is to identify yours, pause for a second and go read this first.)

So this month, I’ve been focusing on starting my day according to my vision of a perfect regular day. This involves rising with the sun (or, since daylight savings time started, before the sun), waking up with a gentle morning yoga practice, nourishing my body with green juice before anything else passes my lips, and then cozily reading something inspirational before I leave for work at 7:25.

Before starting this new routine, my usual wake-up time was 6:45 on an ambitious day and 7:10-ish more typically, so setting the alarm for 5:30 was a bit rough at first! But I quickly adjusted, and I am now finding so much peace and pleasure in this quiet, intentional start to my day. It’s an awesome feeling to do so many good things for myself before I even leave for work, and this filling of my own cup helps me to give more abundantly throughout my day.

The next part of my day to redefine is the few hours right after when I get home from work. This time will be laser-focused on building my business, so I think it’s a good thing I’ll have the energizing and grounding morning habit down first!

Now dearie, have you sketched out your perfect regular day yet?

Please do. Living your complete ideal day may not be possible, maybe not yet and maybe not ever, but I bet that with some rewiring of old habits, you can build at least a part of that dream into your reality.

Which part will that be? Share in the comments!

xo, Elizabeth

 

Your To-Do’s Can Wait: Today Cannot

Sweet pea, will you do me a favor?

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Take today to recharge.

Take today to fill up your cup with all sorts of lay-about, non-productive, don’t-have-time-for-this good things that soothe your stress and curl up your corners of contentment into a sweetly satisfied smile.

“But I have so much to do!” you say! Okay babe, pick the top two things that will freak you out the most if they don’t get done, set the stopwatch on your phone, and get those things done as if your motherloving life depended on it.

Because it does. Your happiness depends on it. And your happiness should largely be your life. Get those few things done lickety-split, then tell the rest of your list to hold its pretty little horses, because you will see them tomorrow. The rest of today is for joyful nonsense.

Friend, I know it’s scary to give yourself permission to do whatever floats your boat today. So I’ll help you out: I give you permission. I give you 30 minutes to get some crap done, and then I give you the rest of the day to reboot your heartspace.

Wonderful! Alright, now close your laptop, exit your app, set down your phone … go off and love your day.

March Chalkboard: My One Word for 2014

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New month, new chalkboard message.

As I sat down in front of my freshly-wiped-clean board this morning, I wasn’t sure what I wanted our March message to be. The obvious theme would be St. Patrick’s Day, but leprechauns freak me out and the topic of luck doesn’t jive with my current focus on daily action and old-fashioned hard work.

So I took a minute to think about what kind of message would inspire me these 31 days, and I thought about the goals that I’ve set for 2014, and the milestones I’ve built within those goals, the first of which comes due at the end of this month.

Then I knew! What better to keep me straight on course towards my goals and milestones than my one word for 2014? Hence, this month’s chalkboard message, “focused on FREEDOM.”

focused on freedom: my one word for 2014

All of my 2014 goals are rooted in freedom.

Freedom to spend my time according to my priorities.

Freedom to work where I want, when I want, with whom I want.

Freedom to raise my future family the way my heart desires.

And freedom to build a business that will foster those other freedoms.

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It’s not too late for you to pick your theme for 2014.

So tell me friend, what’s your one word?

Happy March!

xo, Elizabeth

Raw Truth: I’ve Been a Jerk Lately, Guys

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I haven’t been very nice to myself lately.

Here I am, coaching women to practice self-care and self-love, telling my Realize Your Radiance gals to celebrate the little steps, to aim high and keep heart when the results don’t come as quickly as they think they should, to plan ahead for their future while still being present today, to love themselves enough to design the lives their hearts just crave, et cetera, et cetera, nod, nod, yup.

I’ve got all the right words, all the best intentions. I can talk the talk, but good Lord I have not been walking the walk.

I tell my girls to focus on daily action, but demand results of myself NOW.

I coach my group to adapt my strategies to what works for them, but get mad at myself when other people’s models don’t work for me.

I speak to my coaching students with genuine love, understanding, and awe for the beautiful human beings they are. But I fill my own head with criticism, comparison, and impatience.

Basically? If anyone treated me the way I’ve been treating myself, I would have slammed the door on that relationship and said good riddance about three weeks ago.

This is not characteristic of me. At my core, I am almost annoyingly optimistic, ridiculously enthusiastic, and have a very healthy ego. I’m not going through a depression, or a rough patch, or anything like that.

I’ve just been so busy filling everyone else’s glass that I finally made it back to my own, only to find myself with an empty pitcher in one hand and a bone-dry cup in another.

How many times have I stressed that very concept to my coaching groups, my husband, my friends, my students? You simply cannot give your best to the world until you’ve given your best to yourself. I know it, I preach it, I *usually* practice it, but I’ve gotten a bit off track these past few weeks.

So this weekend, I’m resetting. After I post this, I’m taking the rest of tonight and the whole of this weekend to just do what I want to do.

No to-do lists, no work, no self-imposed obligations. I’m going to devour the novel I’m currently caught up in, I’m going to lie on the coach with my kitties, I’m going to speak sweet words to myself, and I’m going to simply do what I feel like doing.

This weekend I recharge, reboot, and refill my own cup.

How about you, dear friend? Are you treating yourself with the same kindness you extend others? This weekend, be aware. Listen to your self-talk. Notice where you’re being not-so-nice to yourself, and ease up.

You’re enough. I’m enough. We’re doing just fine.

xo Elizabeth

 

February Chalkboard: Be LOVE

Be LOVE - February Chalkboard :: RadiantAbandon.com/blog @eliztguerrero

Last spring, we got this cute antique chalkboard that we’ve taken to using as a fun message board for parties and just around the house.

A few months ago, I started designing little monthly announcements that change with the holiday, season, or depending on when I remember to do it (the Christmas one stayed up for a good 8 or 9 weeks!).

Be LOVE - February Chalkboard :: radiantabandon.com/blog @eliztguerrero

February Chalkboard: Be LOVE // RadiantAbandon.com/blog @eliztguerrero

In honor of Valentine’s Day, this month’s chalkboard message is “Be LOVE.”

Embody love.

Come to all of your interactions, both with others and with yourself, from a place of love.

When you’re feeling annoyed, stressed, mad, apathetic, exasperated, frustrated … stop and try to look at the situation from the perspective of love.

Give others a break. Give yourself a break. We’re all human, we’re all imperfect, and we all want to feel appreciated, needed, and LOVED.

Some may show that essential humanity in ways that make us either want to throttle them or write them off forever (I can be quite throttle-inspiring myself from time to time), but don’t give in to those negative feelings.

Choose love instead.

Be LOVE - February Chalkboard :: RadiantAbandon.com/blog @eliztguerrero

And here’s a peek at the other boards I’ve done so far! For December …

Feliz Navidad - December Chalkboard :: radiantbandon.com/blog @eliztguerrero

… and November.

Give Thanks - November Chalkboard :: radiantabandon.com/blog @eliztguerrero

Help me plan ahead … what do you think would be a good chalkboard message for March?

Got the Fire? Then Start Burning, Baby.

We got the fire, and we're burning one hell of a something. - Ellie Goulding, Burn

I can’t stop listening to this song by Ellie Goulding, and every single time I hear it, this lyric just explodes in my heart:

“We got the fire, and we’re burning one hell of a something.”

Do you have the fire?

That all-consuming, soul-deep desire in your heart for something? Something different? Something more?

Release that fire.

Let it burn. Let it burn away “good enough”, “okay for now”, and “I can’t complain.”

Use that fire to ignite change in your life, the change that you long for.

Use that fire to start the crucible that will transform your life from what it is to what you dream.

This year, I’m burning one hell of a something

Are you?

Why You Won’t Lose Weight, Eat Better, Or Achieve Any of Your Other Goals This Year

Let’s start with a raise of hands … how many of you have resolutions this year to “lose x pounds,” “eat better,” or the oh-so-non-committal “get in shape”?

If you’ve got your hand up, first of all, put it down — for goodness’ sake, you look ridiculous! ;-)

Now, all silliness aside (maybe), allow me to make two assumptions:

1) You’ve had that same goal (or a variation thereof) for at least a few years running.

2) A year from now, you’re STILL going to have that same goal because a) you won’t achieve it this year, and b) you still haven’t learned how to properly set a goal that works.

The problem with goals like “losing weight,” “getting healthy,” etc.?

They’re superficial, unspecific, and they won’t last any longer than that Kit Kat bar in the fridge that you say you’re not going to eat, but we all know you will eat because you have no authentic reason not to.

A goal that works? Has to have feeling behind it. There has to be some emotional connection to a deep-down desire, there has to be a soulful value if you ever want to have the intrinsic drive required to make a goal actually happen.

So … how do you design a goal with soul? Baby, I’ve got you covered.

I’m going to teach you how to do just that in the Realize Your Radiance workshop. The workbook I’ve prepared for you will lead you step-by-step through the process of creating meaningful goals with major staying power, and the personal feedback I give you in our Facebook group (along with the accountability system we’ll establish in our online community) will ensure that you’ve got all the support you need to make. that. sh*t. HAPPEN.

Are you in? Join us here, and get ready to kick some major 2014 ass.

How to Make 2014 the Year You Finally Stop Selling Yourself Short (Plus: Win a Free Registration to My Goal-Planning Workshop!)

Realize Your Radiant : Chart Your Course + Crush Your Goals in 2014

 A goal isn’t just a wish or a whim.

It’s a pledge to stop selling yourself short and to

MAKE. THINGS. HAPPEN.

Whether you want to get in your best shape, strengthen your relationships, or finally learn how to use those knitting needles that have been gathering dust under the couch, one thing’s for certain: The secret to actually realizing those goals?

Is thoughtfully planning out WHY and HOW you’re going to get there.

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Realize Your Radiance is a workshop to help you chart your course + crush your goals in 2014.

On the surface? It’s about setting goals and planning the steps to achieve those visions.

But really? It’s about looking deep into your soul and examining what you really want out of life … and figuring out how to build that reality in 2014.

The workshop is designed for people who want to make 2014 their most authentic, fulfilling year yet — but who need some guidance on how to make that happen.

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Want to win a free spot in the workshop? Answer this question in the comments and I’ll randomly choose one person to win a free registration:

What is the biggest obstacle between you and your dreams?

Free registration giveaway ends Saturday, January 4th at 11:59 p.m. EST. Winner will be notified via email and will be announced on this post. If the winner has already purchased his/her registration, the registration fee will be refunded.

1/5/14: I had a little helped choose the winner out of a bowl … congratulations to Emily for winning our giveaway! Emily, I’m so excited to have you in our workshop. Thanks to everyone for entering! :-)

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My Favorite Things About 2013

As December comes to a close and we get ready to welcome 2014 with open arms and eager hearts, I believe it’s really important to reflect on the past year, especially in the form of showing gratitude for the good we’ve received these 12 months.

Here are my favorite things about 2013, the things that I am most grateful for and that I will always remember as defining my 2013:

Our New Home

our new homeIn May, my husband and I reached a hugely exciting (and slightly terrifying!) milestone when we purchased our first (and we plan, forever!) home.

We’re the sometimes-bewildered-but-always-blessed keepers of a big ole’ four-storey house on ten acres in the middle of nowhere, complete with deer-stomped fields, berry-filled woods, and two ponds just perfect for fishin’, swimmin’, and skatin’.

With all the headaches and reality checks that go along with being a homeowner (including BIG unexpected expenses like a new boiler and roof), it hasn’t all been a dream … but still really, it has. We are blessed with the most amazing miles-long view off our back porch, and the sunsets are to die for. We truly live in paradise, and we are so thankful for that honor.

My Husband

so grateful for my husband!One of my biggest goals for 2013 was to focus on putting my best self into my relationship with my husband, Tomás (or Tomasi, as I like to call him!). I’ve loved him to pieces since the day we met, but over time I had let daily stressors and worries take themselves out on our relationship in the form of snappiness, impatience, and not being fully present when we were together. As I worked through my plan for 2013 in January, I realized that this was something I needed to change this year.

Thanks to heartfelt efforts on both our parts to communicate better and appreciate the little things more, I am so happy and grateful to say that our relationship has really grown and sweetened this year. We argue less (and argue smarter), we cherish each other more, and as new homeowners, we’ve had loads of fun building our own routines and traditions. Don’t get me wrong, we’re not perfect and neither is our relationship (there’s no such thing), but we have grown wonderfully this year, and I’m really proud of (and thankful for) us.

Our Families

1048820_701833598114_860059033_oTomás and I are both very close with our families, so it’s no surprise that they’re at the top of my 2013 gratitude list, but I have to say, they just really blew us away this year with their amazingness! Both of our families helped us tremendously with our new home, both with moral support and actual hard work and sweat.

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The coolest thing? In addition to helping us go through the house hunting and buying processes, helping us move in, helping us clean, helping us tear down and put up walls, helping us eradicate mice (ew!), they’re just really fun to be with. I know that just being able to say that about our families makes us very lucky indeed.

Our Kitties

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At the end of the summer we adopted two kitties from the local shelter, one with special needs (no vision in one eye and only partial in another) and another who’s very “special” just in her general craziness!

Shadow and Jodi make us laugh, they give us cuddles, and they just make daily life sweeter. A home isn’t a home until you share it with a pet! :-)

Adopting pets in our new home felt like the first step in growing our little family … pretty exciting!

Our Travel-Conducive Lifestyle

1040142_703903934144_2091296040_oThis year we spent three weeks in Spain, took a mini vacation to Portugal, visited a crystal cave in upstate NY, treated Tomás’s family to a long weekend in Lancaster County, and booked a 2014 trip to Belgium, the Netherlands, and Germany.

I am SO thankful that Tomás and I both have teaching jobs that allow us to travel during the summers. I’m thankful that we’ve formed habits and made choices that allow us to afford our travel. I’m thankful for the experiences we have while seeing the world together, and I’m thankful for how we both enjoy travel so much and how it brings us even closer together.

Photography

882322_864253402398_628811403_oThis year I got a big girl camera (best purchase of the year — next to our house!), took a workshop in manual settings with my amazingly talented friend Kim Winey, and learned to use both Lightroom and Photoshop. It has been SO. MUCH. FUN.

My favorite thing about photography? I’ve found that, for me, taking and editing pictures is an exercise in gratitude itself. Noticing the beauty around me with my camera has made me more aware of how prevalent that beauty is in my daily life and immediate surroundings.

So, tell me: What are the top things from 2013 that you’re grateful for? Share in the comments!